Comments on: Mean Girls http://lipsticktocrayons.com/2009/10/mean-girls.html Resource for hip & stylish moms Mon, 06 Feb 2012 01:02:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Sharon Melton http://lipsticktocrayons.com/2009/10/mean-girls.html/comment-page-1#comment-34458 Sharon Melton Fri, 16 Oct 2009 03:59:08 +0000 http://lipsticktocrayons.com/?p=3574#comment-34458 This was a very helpful post about many things all woman have probably experienced in their life about "Mean Girls". It has helped me think a lot about the insecurity I grew up dealing with a lot of mean girls and I swore to myself that I would never be one of them. As a mother I wanted to teach my children never to be a mean girl and yet I know I was the same way if someone was mean to one of my kids. As you stated meanness catches on like a virus and spreads. When you preach to you're own children to always be nice to eveyone, even if that person is being mean to them, and then we get that mean mother feeling toward another child then what were we thinking? If only we could go back and change things, but we can't. This post gives us many ways to stop and think before we act and I too will pray for forgiveness. This was a very helpful post about many things all woman have probably experienced in their life about “Mean Girls”. It has helped me think a lot about the insecurity I grew up dealing with a lot of mean girls and I swore to myself that I would never be one of them. As a mother I wanted to teach my children never to be a mean girl and yet I know I was the same way if someone was mean to one of my kids. As you stated meanness catches on like a virus and spreads. When you preach to you’re own children to always be nice to eveyone, even if that person is being mean to them, and then we get that mean mother feeling toward another child then what were we thinking? If only we could go back and change things, but we can’t. This post gives us many ways to stop and think before we act and I too will pray for forgiveness.

]]> By: Kristie http://lipsticktocrayons.com/2009/10/mean-girls.html/comment-page-1#comment-34352 Kristie Thu, 15 Oct 2009 13:02:52 +0000 http://lipsticktocrayons.com/?p=3574#comment-34352 This is great advice. I have always been fascinated by the dynamics of mean girls and what makes them tick. My estranged mother was a mean girl, one of my SIL's is the epitome of meanness, and now my daughters are dealing with mean girls. My oldest has it the hardest because half of the mean girls pick on her because they are insecure. My daughter is an accomplished dancer/singer/actress. The other half pick on her because she's chubby, has tics, and is an easy target because she's a people pleaser. I always tell her to take the high road. Like you wrote, meanness breeds more meanness. The most important point you made is that meanness spreads like a virus. As mothers we need to be aware that we are modeling behavior for our daughters. If they see us gossiping or poking fun at others then they will learn that it's an acceptable behavior. The majority of mean girls I know have mean mothers. That is why it is so hard to deal with these situations if they get out of hand because the mean mother just doesn't get it. Sorry for the long comment but this hits close to home for me since it seems we are always dealing with mean girls with my oldest. Like you suggested, we pray for them because there is some inner sadness or turmoil that causes their meanness. This is great advice. I have always been fascinated by the dynamics of mean girls and what makes them tick. My estranged mother was a mean girl, one of my SIL’s is the epitome of meanness, and now my daughters are dealing with mean girls. My oldest has it the hardest because half of the mean girls pick on her because they are insecure. My daughter is an accomplished dancer/singer/actress. The other half pick on her because she’s chubby, has tics, and is an easy target because she’s a people pleaser. I always tell her to take the high road. Like you wrote, meanness breeds more meanness.

The most important point you made is that meanness spreads like a virus. As mothers we need to be aware that we are modeling behavior for our daughters. If they see us gossiping or poking fun at others then they will learn that it’s an acceptable behavior. The majority of mean girls I know have mean mothers. That is why it is so hard to deal with these situations if they get out of hand because the mean mother just doesn’t get it.

Sorry for the long comment but this hits close to home for me since it seems we are always dealing with mean girls with my oldest. Like you suggested, we pray for them because there is some inner sadness or turmoil that causes their meanness.

]]> By: Patrice http://lipsticktocrayons.com/2009/10/mean-girls.html/comment-page-1#comment-34351 Patrice Thu, 15 Oct 2009 12:53:25 +0000 http://lipsticktocrayons.com/?p=3574#comment-34351 I have one of those in my life. My husbands favorite brothers wife. She has been critical of my sons and me and has managed to convince a couple of the sister-in-laws of falsehoods about me. I like you am a mother bear with her claws out when my "cubs" are being attacked. I dislike her intensely and avoid her as much as is possible. Because my husbands brother is clearly the favorite in the family and is very social with everyone she has plenty of opportunity to ingratiate herself to all of them. She's one of their drinking buddies and I'm not. Every year I dread the holidays and having to spend time with my husbands family. I have one of those in my life. My husbands favorite brothers wife. She has been critical of my sons and me and has managed to convince a couple of the sister-in-laws of falsehoods about me. I like you am a mother bear with her claws out when my “cubs” are being attacked. I dislike her intensely and avoid her as much as is possible. Because my husbands brother is clearly the favorite in the family and is very social with everyone she has plenty of opportunity to ingratiate herself to all of them. She’s one of their drinking buddies and I’m not. Every year I dread the holidays and having to spend time with my husbands family.

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